Monday, August 11, 2014

To Our Sons-Nathan, Graham, Carey, Jonathan




When we joined the Church, we learned about all the main principles and practices of the gospel--tithing, Sabbath observance, moral cleanliness, etc., and, every young man should serve a mission, young women were encouraged, and seniors were needed. At that time we decided that we would serve a mission once we retired, and that we would teach our children to save and prepare, as well.
I am glad we made that decision, and have had honorable sons who followed through with that commitment. However, I'm learning that it was probably a really good thing that we had no idea what we were really signing you boys up for! We may have had more difficulty sending you out had we realized what we were sending you to!
We anticipated your having companions that you had to learn to get along with. We anticipated you needing to learn to cook and clean up after yourselves. We anticipated the struggle with sharing the gospel with an often unwilling populace. We even anticipated your having unfamiliar foods to try to get used to, and accommodations that were less than what you were used to. So, in short, I guess we really did anticipate most of the difficulties of your missions. What we didn't understand, and I don't know how we would have, is how really hard all that all is when taken all together! Maybe at our age we are not as resilient as we would have been at 19, but we are over here with SO much better situation than the young missionaries are! We CHOSE our companion! We have an air-conditioned house and an air-conditioned car. We don't have any places that are specifically off-limits, except, of course, any place the Spirit warns us against. We have a difficult and exhausting assignment, which we are giving our all to, but we can quit for the day whenever we need to, and no one cares. Or even knows. We get to stay in contact with our family 24-7 (if they wrote or called that much!).  We watch TV whenever we want, as long as we pay our own way. We get to leave the mission any time, as long as we come home at night.  We aren't proselyting missionaries, so our discouragement  is different. We definitely do not get  as excited as the young missionaries do over receiving a new mop! (Their mothers would be so proud of them!)
We are so impressed with all these young missionaries who are here, sacrificing so much to serve the Lord and bring his word to a people that is in such desperate need. We are impressed with you, dear sons! With how little complaining we heard! And with each of you for fulfilling your call and staying the full two years. There has been some internet activity regarding missionaries who come home early, lately. There should never be any kind of a stigma attached to any missionary who comes home early! We can never know what led them to that decision, and we have no right to judge them in any way.
We have met  many missionaries with mental and emotional problems, many with debilitating health problems, and some with almost no support from home at all. They are truly as the Army Of Helaman, and we are proud to serve with them.
I know the Lord blesses his servants, and I trust, as you each look back, you see growth and testimony that you could have gotten no other way. I hope you also see how proud of  you your parents are, and how grateful we are to have valiant, obedient sons who hearkened to the call, especially since none of us knew what you were getting into!
PS-We are equally proud of our sister missionary, Maria, but had nothing to do with that one!

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